Have you ever just sat and thought about how negative you are? If not think about it for a minute.......
After taking my minute I realized that I was unintentionally negative. Yes, its possible. it has become second nature to groan at those things that don't immediately satisfy me and to speak more about the things I don't like more than I do the things I love. Overall my positive outlook on this thing called life is there however I tend to speak negatively. So a few friends and I have been doing this positivity challenge that I read about on another blog. It has been just that a challenge. It was then that I realized just how negative I was. I owe all my friends, co-workers, and family members an apology. This challenge has forced me change a lot of habits. Its been a long time since I took into consideration how negativity jumps off on others. MY BAD Y'ALL.
I have always taken pride in being a positive person, but this challenge has made me take that title right away for the moment. I've had my bubbly personality confused with being a positive person. I love to laugh, joke, and I can literally make friends looking a hot mess at the Dollar Store. Its my thing! That's a positive attribute that I take pride in but that's not being positive.
Being positive is praising God even in the ugliest of situations. Being positive is hating your job but going anyway and doing your best. Being positive is understanding that it could possibly be worse than what it is. Being positive is knowing that its Monday but still claiming a great day.
As you know 30 is approaching for me and there's a lot of things that I wanted to work on. My main goal for 2017 was to simply be a better version of myself. I literally took off running with the work, however my negativity never left. Because honestly I didn't even think I was negative. Not one time did I think about my negative language and how easily negativity oured from my mouth all day. I Never stopped moaning and groaning on Mondays about going to work, I never stopped cussing like a full on sailor, and I never stopped to find the silver lining.
I know i'm so much better than that. I honestly have so much to be thankful for and I love finding something positive in every negative. I had to change my mindset and my thinking. I don't want to be that friend that gets on everyone's nerves, because I'm negative.
Below i've listed some of things that I am doing in my life to help keep this up positivity flowing:
*All through the day I've set alarms that say positive things such as:
9:00 AM "Girl Be Great"
11:30 AM "It gets better"
2:00 PM " Almost done girl
5:10 PM " Go Gina, you made it"
*I've been singing my favorite songs the moment I feel a negative groan coming to attack.
" Jesus will work it out, Jesus will work it out" has been sung a lot. Can you imagine the looks i've received? LOL IDC
*I've even changed my background on my phone. Just something positive and cute.
*Me and friends send each other positive messages in the mornings and throughout the day. Its possibly the highlight of my day. TRY IT!
Now I'm not saying there wont be days and moments that you just want to flip over a table, I'm saying that when those days come, change how you deal with them. Make a decision today that you wont allow negativity to control you and your life. This challenge has also helped me realize that some stuff doesn't even need to be said at all. I've also realized that I can be the problem and solution, I get to choose and control that.
In closing, I pray you continue to work on being the best version of yourself, be you, do you, for you!!